Enjoying the Ride of Your Life

Love where you are as much as where you are going so you will never miss a moment of the journey – Unknown –

 

Lately Long train rides have been my favourite thing to do, apart from getting lost and directions my favorite part is the journey in between before I reach my destination. Long train rides to Liverpool so far are my favorite as I can look at the scenery, think about my life and everything that is going on, reflect, read a book and listen to music. I have been wanting to go inter railing for a long time and one of the places I would love to go explore using scenic trains is Switzerland, ahhh they literally have the most beautiful scenic landscapes.

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During train rides I have to sit through the journey I am taking until I reach my stop, I could also choose to get off, hop on another train, change to a different route, at the end of it my goal is to reach my destination. Life is pretty much similar to a train ride we are all on a journey with a final destination what we do, who we choose to love, the friends we have, the jobs we take are all decisions we make through out, what happens in between is up to you.

We all go through highs & lows, comfortable and uncomfortable stages this could be the unemployment & employment stage, the relationship stage (breakups, makeups, honeymoons), friendships, education etc.  in all these stages or some of them we have a tendency of rushing the process to get to the next stage in order to get out of the uncomfortable phase or we miss pivotal moments while our eyes are set on the end goal.

The trouble is whenever we do this we cease to enjoy the moment and love where we are as we are too busy looking forward to where we are going and in the process we miss moments that happened during our tests and trials. These moments however good or bad teach us something about ourselves and mold us into a better person. I have found my self at times looking forward to the future and forget to live in the moment especially when I am going through an uncomfortable season.

Uncomfortable seasons are good in a way depending on how you look at them from a positive point of view they teach us a lot about ourselves, how strong we are and can be, how much we can grow, what we can achieve, and what we can overcome. Sometimes in order to grow into the next stage you have to trust the process and go through it, often times we are so impatient and we do not want to go through with the process and we just skip, find shortcuts or end up quitting it all together.                                                           Have you ever been running late that you make the decision to change your usual train route to a different one in hopes that you will get there earlier and in the long run you become even later than you would have been if you stuck to the same route. Its so important to trust the process and stay the course, God also has a funny way of making the things we fail to learn from come back in a different way, the same mountain or obstacle you avoided will come back through another job, another relationship, another friendship, or another scenario.

 

Take pride in how far you’ve come. Have faith in how far you can go. But don’t forget to enjoy the journey – Micheal Josephson –

 

Your seasons however may not all be uncomfortable some seasons maybe great seasons, but we maybe so focused on the next goal that we don’t take the time to live in the moment and appreciate the season we in. There are times when I have been cruising through life only to look back and realize wow I missed that moment I wish I had just soaked it in and enjoyed it, kind of like sleeping on a train and missing all the beautiful scenery. There are some special moments in your life that cannot be repeated that you will never get back, You will never be 21 or 25 or 30 again, there are some moments in life where you just have to be thankful and grateful for how far you have come, how much you have achieve, the person you have grown into. Always ask yourself what or how much you have learnt from a season?

These past few months/weeks I have been teaching myself to enjoy the journey of my life however bad, difficult or good each season is the best thing is to always look at the positive aspect of it. Its good to have a goal to look forward to but make sure while your on the journey you are engaging and taking in all that life throws at you, everyone or everything that comes your way is molding you into the person you will become.

 

Happiness is not about the trophy, or the finish line. Its the journey. If you enjoy your journey, you can enjoy your life – Pharrell Williams 

 

Enjoy the Ride of your Life.

E.B

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The #21DaysofDisciplineChallenge

– Today is a Great day to be Great –

Monday 15th  August 2016 – The day I decided to challenge myself

I was scrolling through my Instagram the day before and I came across this self discipline challenge that @PrinceDonnell had created,  for 21 days you had to…

1. Wake up at 5am

2. Have 1 hour of excercise

3. Drink 1 Gallon of water per day – equivalent to 4.5 Litres

4. Read for 15mins

5. Spend 1 hour of no phone time ( separate from exercise time )

 

I have always struggled with being disciplined in certain areas of my life whether its a goal or an idea I would often start and find myself giving up or moving on to something else that caught my eye. When i saw this challenge I thought this is an opportunity to prove to myself that I can be disciplined, focused and I can stick to a task at hand, Besides what did I have to lose? In fact I had more to gain than lose apart from having to sacrifice a couple hours lay in at the weekend I was in a Win situation if I persevered through it all.  Another thing that caught my eye, it apparently takes 21 days to create a habit well this was what I needed, the discipline of turning the things I hated which are meant to be good for me in terms of growth and success into my habits.

On Monday the 15th August I had a long day at work usually my routine consisted of waking up at 4 am getting ready for work coming back home exhausted which meant taking naps by the time I knew it my whole day was gone. This day was different, this was the day I had to start the challenge. So I showered had something to eat got dressed and I was out the door, I figured I would start with running. Usually I go for Fit run every Tuesday with a few friends but today I had to do it on my own. It hit me when I got to the park and started doing my stretches, am I actually here on my own about to run for 1 hour with no one to motivate me and push me? at this point so many things were going through my head while I was running, how are you going to do this for 21 days straight Esther with no break? Was this even a good idea? This was physically and mentally tough but I told my self I will prove to myself and other people that anything is possible if you put your mind to it.

As the days went by it got tougher and tougher especially days when I had to go on my own and push my self to complete the challenge, the first week I struggled with my body I was physically in so much pain my body was not used to me pushing it the way I did, part of me was scared I was pushing too much, then I remembered something my dad used to say ‘everything is in the mind, the things you hate the most are usually the best things for you’ at the time I did not understand this but now this was my daily saying. There was no way I was going to give up through the struggles through the pain I was going to keep pressing forward as each day passed I was learning more about myself and about my body, my mind was clear, my skin was clear, I was having better sleep, more focused, disciplined and something in me was changing and has changed.

I honestly would encourage anyone to give this challenge a go, yes it will be hard waking up so early, drinking 1 gallon of water equivalent to 4.5 litres , taking some time to read a book, spending 1 hour off your phone and exercising will not be a walk in the park especially if you are doing them every single day with no break. Some will be easier than others, but when you come out on the other side the reward is quite incredible you feel like you can conquer the world.

What did I learn from this experience?

Excuses

Before this challenge I did not realise how many excuses I had to why I could not do a lot of things, this challenge made me realise that excuses are the number one thing stopping the majority of us from reaching our goals or finding out what we are capable of doing. Excuses will kill and destroy your goals and dreams, excuses are gonna stop you from realising what your potential is. There are always going to be excuses as to why you cannot do things, its gonna be raining its gonna be hot, you will always be working, you will not have enough time. The one thing I know is If you plan your day right you can fit in all the things you want to do, when you want something there should never be an excuse to stop you from accomplishing it. You gonna find a way to fit it in, spin it around, put all the puzzles together and make it work, and yes its gonna be hard but you can do it.

Just Do It

Taking the first step is a step in the right direction for success, a million questions will be racing through your mind on how this will ever be possible, most of the questions we ask ourselves often put us off from taking that first step. We get ourselves so worked up to the point were we have exhausted all the ways we can fail at a challenge and decide it will not work out so there is no point in attempting it.

Don’t wait for the perfect opportunity to start making change and taking action in your life because what if the perfect opportunity never comes. The perfect opportunity to start making changes is never gonna come, you just have to wake up one day and JUST DO IT, don’t wait for tomorrow today is the day for change, the time for change is now.

Perseverance is Key

After you have taken the first step you will face challenges and trials along the way and this is perfectly normal this is a test to see how much you can persevere through it all, Do not give up keep pressing forward. Some days I was soo exhausted and in pain but I had to power through and often recited these sayings to encourage me ‘No Pain No Gain’ ‘Nothing great ever comes easy’. You have to work hard for the results you want to see and for this i told my self I will persevere through it all giving up is Never an option. Galatians 6:9 “Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up”.

Motivation

Its so easy to do something with someone else because you know there is no way you will slack as the other person will make you accountable, push you and motivate you to keep going, but one of the hardest things to do is to motivate yourself, no one will be there to hold your hand and whip you to take action. One thing I learned is that in the past when I wanted to do something I would look for someone to do it with me if not I would not even bother attempting it at all. I have learnt that if you want something great you cannot wait for people or someone to do it with you, you just have to push yourself and do it, you will have to be responsible for your own motivation. You never know the impact this might have, there might be people at the end of your challenge who will learn from your journey and be inspired to take action in their lives.

The most Important one of All…
Its all in the Mind

You don’t know how far your body can go until you push it everything is in your head, and the way you speak to your self is so important the inner person in your head that keeps speaking to you is sooo important, your mind set has to be right because the way you talk to yourself determines how far you can push your self. There is a constant battle between the mind and the body, for example in my first week I had the right mind set I was motivated and ready to go but everyday after work I was exhausted and tired and all I wanted to do was have a shower and go to bed, but I was not letting my body rule my mind and win I gave into my mind and surprisingly I felt so much better every time after a work out. The problem is so many of us feed into what the body wants  and later on we wonder why we feel like crap, remember ‘when you physically do something you previously were not able to do something changes’ This means that the bar increases every time you reach what you thought was your limit your mentality changes and you learn that your body can power through anything.

Positive affirmations are a good way to gear your mind and get you on a motivation high each day for example; Every day/Today is a good day to be Great, Its all in the mind, No pain No gain, Strength no Weaknesses, or my favourite one I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me, Philippians 4:13.  

I challenge anyone who wants to be more disciplined and see change in their life to go for it, you will learn something you never knew about yourself. You don’t know what you are capable of unless you try, anything is possible if you put your mind to it , if I can do it you can do it.

– Everyday is a Great day to be Great

E.B