His Footprints

I turn 25 in a couple of days and this may be a daunting or celebratory feeling for some people, daunting in a way because you start to think of all the things you wanted to achieve by this age. I am sure most of us had a list or ideally hoped that by this time we would either be married, engaged, with a child, living in your own house, or have your own business, dream job etc. Either way I have learnt that things do not always go how you expect them to go and that is totally fine, the main thing is not to become discouraged as I have been feeling these past few weeks. On reflection I have learnt so much about my self these past 3 years and the good thing is I am still learning and growing, what is important is not rushing the process and that all good things will come in due season.

There is a poem by Mary Stevenson called Foot Prints in the Sand, when me and my family lived in Swaziland we had a big framed poster of this poem hanging in one of the rooms, I used to read it every time I went into that room I love this poem, take a look…

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I want to put my own take on the Lords footprints, through out my life my relationship with God has been up and down depending on my circumstances or what I was going through at the time. When I was young my relationship with God was strong I never missed a day without praying or reading my bible, I was bold and confident when it came to telling people about the Love of God and who he was. As I got older the worries of this world took over me and my focus shifted drastically, I started comparing my life with others and I thought I was missing out on a lot of things, so I started running away from God, this lead to me eventually criticising every aspect of myself, I began to create my own footprints.. at the time I did not realise that I was creating my own destiny and journey by ignoring God and doing what I wanted to do.

Reflecting back I now realise that there is nothing more fulfilling than being in the Lords presence, I started to fill these voids that I had, trying to get other people to Love me, ashamed of who I was that I created this ideal me that everyone would like and I still was not satisfied and was left feeling unhappy and lost. About 3/4 years ago I had, had enough I was tired of running I needed to get closer to the source of my Life, I left a bad relationship I was in at the time and told myself it was time for change, being unhappy, depressed, feeling inadequate, feeling lost, living life with no purpose, & filling my voids with things except God was not my portion.

Making this decision is the best thing I have ever done, when you have experienced the Love of God and you become lost and found you begin to appreciate it more and you never want to go back to that dark place. He opened my eyes and I began to realise my self worth, that I am fearfully and wonderfully made Psalm 139:14, that before he formed me in my mothers womb he knew me, before i was born he set me apart Jeremiah 1:5 – God has gone before me and created my destiny and it is my choice if I choose to walk in the footprints that he has created before me. In the past I created my own footprints and if I had carried on I know my life would have turned out different.

My goal everyday is to make sure I am following in his footsteps, that I do not waiver from side to side creating my own path, because I want what he has planned for me and I want to fulfil his calling on my life. There is nothing more amazing than knowing that you are on the right track, yes you may stumble and fall but the goal is to be more and more like Jesus, to have his heart so that you may reject anything that does not look like him. This is a journey I want to stay on and experience the wonders of God, there is nothing like being in his presence. I want to encourage everyone to give him a chance.

 

When Jesus spoke again to the people, he said, “I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.”

John 8:12 – NIV

E.B

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The Summer Wedding

Love is Patient, Love is Kind. It always Protects, always Trusts, always Hopes, always Perseveres. LOVE NEVER FAILS – 1st Corinthians 13: 4,7,8 –

 

On Saturday 30th July 2016 my Aunt got married and for the first time in my life i got to be a bridesmaid never been so excited for this moment. The week started off quite stressful running around with my cousin dealing with last minute final touches,  i did not realise how much work  goes into wedding planning i was stressed out and it was not even my wedding so think of how the bride must have felt? The wedding day started off crazy getting ready was stressful normally when i am going out with my friends or somewhere special it takes me up to 2 hours without rushing to get dressed, get my hair and makeup done. So my plan was to spend at least 4 hours taking my time to get ready as it was a really special day and I wanted to look amazing but as you know nothing ever goes to plan,  we were rushing around and running late for the church service so we had to get ready in 2 hours.

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We finally got to relax when in the limo and were served with some lovely champagne which my cousin poured for all the bridesmaids, the maid of honour and the bride, the best I have tasted so far. We arrived at the church got out of the limo while the photographer took our pictures, the vicar greeted us and as we entered the church we stood in height order and were given instructions of when to walk down the isle. All the bridesmaids had walked down the isle and the bride walked down looking absolutely beautiful in the Ivory glittery wedding dress she wore, the vicar led the service, bride and groom took their vows, we sang some hymns and the vicar spoke with a message for the couple. After everything we all proceeded outside to take alot of pictures with the bride, her family, the grooms family and all the bridesmaids together.

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The reception was held at The Ocean View Hotel a really beautiful venue near the beach with beautiful views and a balcony overlooking a swimming pool, this was a perfect spot to take lovely wedding pictures. When you walk inside from the balcony there is a bar accompanied with a sitting area to relax before guests were allowed to go into the main reception hall, waiters were serving some champagne and juice for the guests.

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All the brides maids the best man, maid of honour and bride and groom lined up at the entrance of the reception hall to greet all the guests as they entered and were each allocated their seats by the ushers. The brides maids, bride and groom made their entrance after everyone had taken their seats, we all danced our way to our seats as everyone clapped along and whistled, the room was filled with joy laughter and happiness with everyone taking out their phones to take pictures and film the bride and groom as they made their entrance.

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Some of The Bridesmaids

 The tables were beautifully decorated with lovely flower centrepieces accompanied by diamond stones sprinkled with glitter on the table. Each guest had their name card next to their seat on the table and written on the back of each card was the starter, main course and dessert that each guest had chosen to eat. For the starter i had a liver parfait which was really nice it had an interesting flavour to it, then for the main was pork this was quite filling considering I had not eaten all day. Last but not least dessert let me just say I am in love with profiteroles and these ones were absolutely amazing.

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Table Settings

There was a couple of speeches to the newlywed couple from friends, family, the best-man and the groom most of them wishing them a life of happiness and success through the ups and downs, others giving them advice about married life and how to cope in different situations and the best-man trying to embarrass the groom, they were a lovely set of speeches.

We then proceeded to have a fun night dancing and having fun the bride and groom had their first dance which was accompanied by the best-man and maid of honour and later the bridesmaids and the rest of the guests. The DJ played candy and all the bridesmaids and usher boys started dancing to the famous dance routine with everyone cheering us on and getting into the spirit.The couple later cut their cake with an explosion of champagne poured by the host after that that the bride went to change into her second outfit and the guests proceeded to enjoy themselves on the dance floor. The bride and groom later reappeared wearing cowboy hats she also changed into a hot pink sparkling dress dancing their way around and onto the dance floor, the bridesmaids were also given cowboy hats and joined them on the dance floor.

We all continued on into the night dancing to the music and showing off all our moves having the time of our life. This truly was an amazing special day filled with loved ones and close friends, this day made me appreciate family even more as we had so many laughs and really enjoyed the time we had, it taught me to start spending and investing time on my family, cousins etc. and not make it a habit to come together only at occasions such as birthdays, weddings and funerals. Family is everything, Love is a blessing, A Gift from God that we should all sprinkle and throw everywhere we go like confetti.

Congratulations to Aunty Jess and Uncle Rob.

LOVE

E.B

The Art of Comparison

 

Comparison is the thief of joy – Theodore Roosevelt –

If comparison was an art I would be the best Artist out there in fact majority of us would fall into this category, the amount of time we spend comparing our lives running around doing things to try and keep up with the Joneses is actually quite ridiculous.

We unconsciously do it to the point where it has become second nature to us. The rise of the different Social Media platforms do not help either, keeping up with them comes with the art of comparing your self to everyone out there who seems to be doing great, looking beautiful or living the ‘PERFECT ‘ life. The worst thing is they hook you in and you become so addicted, take Instagram for example you spend hours scrolling through your timeline going through page after page, picture after picture by the time you know it you have spent an hour comparing yourself admiring people’s lives and wishing you had what they have.

Snapchat is another one I had to force myself to occasionally delete off my phone, there where times I would watch peoples snaps and feel like my life was not as fun or as great as others. It seemed like everyone else’s life was more exciting and I was just stuck waking up at 4am everyday working all the time. I came to a point where I had to detach my self from these platforms, so that I did not feel like I was missing out if I went 1 day, 3 days or even a week without checking up on them. Ridding myself of the addiction was a healing process for me , as every time I would see a beautiful girl on Instagram my comparison would kick in, If I could look as perfect as those girls I thought I would love myself more. Taking time out learning to love myself so that the need of comparison would decrease really helped me so much.  I came to the conclusion that in reality everyone only shows a snapshot of their life, they post only the best bits and the highlights and that no one is going to post about how broke or depressed they are just their own perception of how they want the audience to view their life.      

HOW to STOP Practising the ART of COMPARISON –

1. What you see is not always what you get

Its so easy these days to compare your life especially now that we have Instagram Snapchat Twitter and Facebook so many of the different social media platforms, where people post about their daily lives whether good, bad, sad, happy etc. the majority of the time it will always be about the good things. Its so easy to get caught up in envying other people and thinking that the people who always post amazing things are living this perfect life, what we fail to realise is that everyone posts the highlights what you see on Snapchat is only 10% of what really goes on in their life. A beautiful picture on Facebook will not show what a persons going through deep down, it is only a disguise to make people think that everything is perfect when in reality that person may be battling with self love or depression we are truly not seeing the full picture.

2. There is a time for everything

Everyone has a different journey in this life, some get married way too young, get their dream job, travel the world, get rich and famous and some prefer to wait till their much older to settle down and have kids. I was getting more and more frustrated with my self when I was seeing a lot of people my age getting their dream job, dream car, married, having kids and moving into their first home together and seemed to be living happy lives. Worse off when I kept getting the questions about what I am going to do with my life, I started to look at my life and wonder what I had accomplished apart from being in school and getting a degree, this made me become more frustrated that I did not have the things I was seeing other people with.

We always downplay our accomplishments and think they are not as good as Tom Dick and Harrys accomplishments someone else has to always do it better. Why can’t it be you? Listen!!! Just because you are not doing what all your age mates are doing it doesn’t mean your losing out or behind, some people will get there much quicker than others what matters is that you achieve your goals in the end. Just know that there is a time for everything under the sun and it might not be your time or season at the moment. –Ecclesiastes 3: 1-8-

 

3. You might not be ready

We want what we want right now and fast, we currently live in a fast generation no time or effort is put into things these days but the quicker you get it the quicker you loose it, especially if it’s not the right time for it or if you have not gone through the process. For example a pregnant women would like to rush the process of meeting her unborn child but the baby has to go through the process until its ready to come out, if not there are always complications. Same as life you want to be the best at what you do but you get what you put in, if you sow less time you will reap less. Self improvement is always a good thing if there are things that you don’t like and you can change them do it, whether its reading more books to expand your knowledge, practising that piano until you are as good or even better than that person you compare yourself to, whatever it is keep doing it and be patient your time will soon come.

4. Just Be You!

You are your own person there will never be another you, no one will ever talk like you, walk like you, laugh like you, dance like you and have your personality. Why would you want to be like someone else when God did not make a mistake – Psalms 139:14- ” I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.” You are unique just learn to love yourself there’s real beauty in it that I cannot describe when you begin to accept yourself for who you are and all the little things that irritate you happiness follows. The need to compare yourself to everyone else becomes less and less important, Its easier said than done but its a process.

First LOVE YOURSELF Secondly FIND YOURSELF and when you do you will know who you are and no one can ever tell you any different Thirdly FIND YOUR PURPOSE – once you find your purpose on this earth you will know what to live for, to live for something that makes you wake up everyday alive and ready to go and change the world.

 

“When you Stop practising the Art of Comparison and Start practising the Art of Loving Yourself then you will become more conscious of your true worth”  – Esther Bogere –

E.B

Are you settling in life?

 

Nelson Mandela once said there is no passion to be found playing small, in settling for a life that is less than the one you are capable of living. 

Honestly why should you settle for less in life? You are destined for greatness and God wants you to let go of all the mediocre things you keep holding onto because he knows that you are worthy of having the best.

Sometimes it can be hard to let go of situations, habits, friendships and relationships that are crippling us and stopping us from growing. We are so in love  with these things so much that we begin to feel attached and cannot let go of them. In the long run we have talked our selves into it so much that we become blind and we start believing that this is it. Our gut instinct has been severed so much that we stop listening and we become so insecure in ourselves that…

WE BEGIN TO SETTLE

Settling for that job where your work efforts go unnoticed, with a boss that talks down to you, and because you have let your bosses words soak into your heart you begin to believe that your worthless and you can never amount to anything.

You settle for that boyfriend of yours who has zero respect calling you all the names under the sun, and because of your insecurities you think you are not deserving enough to find someone who will love and treat you like a Queen, so you decide to stay with him and take all the manipulation and abuse. It is so bizarre how we act when we think we are in love, I used to think I could change my ex boyfriend and make him a better person, I thought that this is it, I will be with him for the rest of my life so this has to work, I even prayed to God and tried to make him see that I knew what I was doing. The whole time he was telling me to get out of it because he had better for me, but I refused to listen I thought I knew best, but in reality I was so insecure and I was looking for love in someone else because I did not love myself. Eventually my eyes where opened and I was awake and finally believed I deserved better, if I had paid attention to the signs and listened to God I wouldn’t have wasted time settling, instead I would have worked on bettering myself and knowing my worth.

You settle for those friends that only contribute to being takers in your life, with no means to elevate you and help you grow physically, mentally and spiritually. Your inner circle is very important as the people you surround yourself with will have an influence on your character, Just as it says in 1 Corinthians 15:33 ” Bad company corrupts, Good character”.

If you hang around with gossipers eventually you will find yourself joining in with them especially if your the odd one out. If you are around negative people you will start to act and think like them, their negativity will start to get on you and you will end up being infected like them. So evaluate the people around you, don’t be afraid to let go of these sort of friendships because of fear of being alone, God will bless you with amazing people who are going to make a difference in your life, when you stop settling with friends who are holding you down.

I remember a time of loneliness when  I did not have friends, I wanted them so bad that I ended up being friends with the wrong group of people. They would gossip, hurt me and discourage me, and we had conflicting ideas. For a while I ignored my gut instinct that was telling me they were not good friends and I should distance myself away from them, I was afraid of being alone. In the end I was hurt and betrayed so much I decided enough was enough, I thought I would rather be lonely and happy than be miserable and settle with the wrong group of friends. God would eventually bless me with great friends who would influence me, teach me, correct me and help me grow in this thing called life.

Remember! Beautiful People the decisions we make in life create and influence our destiny, so lets not be content with mediocre things in our life, let us fully trust in God to propel us to greatness.

He loves you so much that he wants you to let go of these things and fully trust in him, he has greater blessings in store for you that he wants you to have but this cannot happen if you are not listening to his voice, just let go and fully trust in him. You are capable of so much more than you can imagine.

Jeremiah 29:11 says “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you plans to give you hope and a future”.

EB x